I want to marry them folks, but that doesn't mean that they want to marry me.

But let's put things down in black and white, so there's no confusion as to who I've chosen.  A dowry is a formal proposal, but I'm not giving away anymore dowries of music and I can't afford rings at this time.  Without a dowry there is no blame on her if she does whatever she feels, so please don't go on a rampage people, if she were to do so.  What matters to me is her chastity and integrity.  If I were to lose interest for whatever reason (like her slutting around, becoming an alcoholic/drug addict, anti-Islam etc), it simply means that I would have to find some other blonde.  Please pray girls, Allah is the One Who provides us sustenance.  Ya Allah, please protect and bless my wives.